OK! First post
I am now 25 weeks pregnant with my little Peanut , let the countdown begin 15 weeks to go.
Although I wanted to start this blog when I first fell pregnant its better late then never.
Now before I talk about all the fun things I am experiencing at the moment let me take you back 5 weeks to our 20 week scan.
5 weeks ago, 4 days after I married my now husband we went for our 20 week scan so excited to see our little PEANUT . After a hour of probing around and getting everything measured and accessed we were allowed to take a few photos of Bub and they lady said ok well doctor will be in touch.
The next day me being me wanted to make sure all was ok so I rang my GP for my results , only to be told I had to come in for them . I immediately began worried and rang my husband my first words were I think something’s wrong! My husband being the cool calm and collected one said don’t overthink it im sure everything is ok. we went to the doctors that day with my mum also shortly after the phone call to be told that our child has a problem in the doctors words “Their is a big problem” I said ok so what is it? He then told us that our baby of 20 weeks had a Limb difference . now I don’t know about you but I was like what does that mean.
Basically between 8 and 10 weeks when our child developed hands arms , legs and feet. Our little bub didn’t develop its complete left arm and hand only growing from the shoulder to the elbow and 2 joints below that . missing a lower left arm limb and left hand.
we were devastated , shocked and torn . we had a choice and we had to take into account our child’s life not just the early years.
After seeing a doctor from Melbourne who came to our little regional city to complete another intense scan determining the movement , any other visual problems and to basically look at every inch of our baby to find everything was perfect. However after already knowing their was a problem missed so early in my pregnancy we wanted to know 99%. We had Amniocentesis done which lady’s ;et me tell you was painful and had its risks . But as concerned parents we wanted to know , this test checked for reasons behind this difference , any other mental problems eg: Downs , Autism etc etc.
we had to wait 2 weeks for results , we were told everything came back perfect and that their was no reason that basically its bad luck and it just happened.
we have decided to keep our baby , with knowing this difference . I honestly see my child growing up facing normal things kids face . Yes their may be hurdle’s but we will overcome them , it is born like this not knowing any different and will grow like a normal child. I am not embarrassed or concerned . In fact my only worry is the reactions from people of the public who may not be as understanding , self diagnosing my child without knowing the truth.
Don’t get me wrong it has been a hard journey accepting and adjusting to this reality .
Myself I can talk to people , reach out and research be hopeful that my child can do anything it sets its mind to . But I we all deal with things differently and So does my Husband like most people he couldn’t talk about it to much it hurt and it was a shock. He has good days and bad . He has his worries and concerns like any father, but I know that he wouldn’t change having this baby for the world .
so their it is my first post. sorry it was a long one but Im sure you understand its not something that could be edited into short form .